So often, we come through learning experiences feeling like we did better than we ever expected. We didn't stop breathing, we didn't hurt anyone, and we dodged that lightning bolt. So, we think that we are ok. Many times, we are not. Resilience and resolution are not one and the same.
This is especially true for relationships. We often come out of relationships of any sort with a "I won't do that again" perspective. We rarely talk about what we WILL do the next time around. Will you listen to your friend lament about her latest date without criticism and judgment? Will you let your child wear that raggedy pair of jeans? Will you buy him tickets to the game...so that he can hang out with the guys?
What will you do? If you focus on what you won't do, you won't do anything differently. You'll just find a different way of doing the same thing. If you don't let go of the pain, it will be a third party to every conversation. If you don't let go of the hurt, it will join you on every date. If you don't let go of your past, you're bound to repeat.
We are all infinite beings with infinite possibilities. Starting out at a similar point doesn't mean you'll end up with a similar outcome. Let go, and let the possibilities in. Let yourself be different. Be the change you wish to see.
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